Momentary Silence Over With...

Ok, I lied...momentary silence over. I just finished watching the finale of "The Bachelor" and I'm disgusted by this guy. I can't NOT comment!
If you missed it, the bachelor proposed to Melissa, and in the 6 ensuing weeks since it happened in real life and since it aired on national tv, he's changed his mind and wants to pick the other girl, Molly. To back up even further, this guy has been previously divorced and was also rejected on The Bachelorette last season, making women everywhere feel bad for his little puppy dog heart.

In the 6 weeks since he proposed, he admitted talking a lot to Melissa...6 weeks he could have been a man and given her the respect of breaking up with her at home. Instead, he brought her on national tv to do it. She obviously didn't see it coming, because you could see the moment when she realized what he was about to say.

Here were some of his comments...
"I can't control what I'm feeling" and "on that day, i loved you"
I'm sorry, "on that day?" What if men everywhere tell their girlfriends when they get engaged that he loves her, but just for that day?

She responds with, "you put a ring on my finger, you told me you loved me, you told me you wanted to give me everything, but you don't want to fight for me" Amen sista. She was so right on...no wonder this guy is divorced, he turns and runs as soon as it gets a little hard because it's all about him and what he feels and nobody else. Her final words, "Don't call me, don't text me, leave me alone please". Good for her, dangitt! So many women don't have the guts to put guys in their place when they deserve it (key words: when they deserve it...there are plenty of women who put guys in their place when they don't deserve it...but that's another post for another day...) So of course he tries to give this puppy dog look as she leaves and I'm sure he genuinely feels bad, but I have no sympathy. Maybe that worked in the previous season, but no more jerkoid. He knows dang well he's in the wrong, that's why he feels bad about it.

But then I had to yell at the tv again because while she is so right, in the limo driving home she questions what she did wrong to make the relationship sour. Why do we do this?? She had the exact right attitude and even kept her grace under fire, and still can't help but question what is wrong with her. Argh...we just can't help ourselves, can we ladies.

She commented, "I can't be mad for Jason not being in love with me"...ok fair enough. But you can be mad at him for making a lifelong committment to you and then backing out after a mere 6 weeks of real life. I do suppose the upside is she didn't find out AFTER walking down the aisle.

After she left he tells the host, "I never lied to her"...maybe the truth, I don't doubt you cared for her... but not the point, igmo. I hope you don't put your kid through more divorces in his life because you're looking for a marriage that doesn't require work and makes you feel happy all the time.

What's even better, 5 minutes later he professes his love to Molly, who while confused and non-committal, is obviously happy about the situation. I hope she watches this episode tonight and sees what happened 5 minutes before her entrance and sees the truth of who this guy is. But what does he say to her? This cracked me up; "When I think about living in the moment, it's with you" In the moment? He's wanting a marriage yet cannot even commit till the end of the show. "You have to follow your heart, even though it's impacting other people. You can't control what you feel".
That's right, just do whatever you want, regardless of the impact of other people. You know what, I feel like punching you in the face right now, that will make me feel good, even though it will impact you (literally!)...I bet he'd have a slightly different opinion if somebody said that to him right now...

His last words to Molly before the end of the show, "As I sit here I can say I fell in love with you, I am falling in love with you still, and I will always be in love you with"...to that I say...bullcrap.